The married life is both enjoyable and difficult. Today we are rediscovering married life after creating our own version of parenting, values and keeping our marriage on our 2nd years and 6 months. The marriage alone is difficult but marriage with Jesus is wonderful. It is difficult to handle marriage if you only depend on your own strength, if you depend on your wife strength or if your wife depends on your strength.
Before, my idea is “You depend on me because I am the leader of the family”. After getting fixated on this idea, I realized I was wrong. It’s not the way it was. Believe me, it was difficult. Little by little, we changed it to “We depend on God because He knows the way”.
Back to Basic
We went on to review the basics of marriage, the husband is the leader, lover, and provider as for the wife is the helper. But sometimes, we add more responsibility to our wife as an encourager, lover, keeper, maker, gardener, sweeper, cleaner, decorator, giver, teacher, singer, dancer and a lot more. We add more misery to our spouse if we do this.
We are not saying that we are pro in marriage relationship but my wife and I would like to use our marriage to encourage more couple to become better as they keep their own marriage strong and healthy.
Easy boy, easy…
There was a time I had a very stressful day in the office when I got so irritated with my son and advertently shouted at him in disgust. While my wife was looking at me I got so sorry and looked at her with a teary eye hoping that she would understand. She shrugged her shoulder and went on with her chore. Before bedtime, we went to the room and talked. I confessed that I was totally sorry for what happened. We hugged and make-up.
Admit Your Weakness
I admitted that at the moment I could not stay with our son because I was too tired after the office. But I told her that I will do my best to take time for our family. It was a total defenseless moment of my life. I was not used to this but I realized it needed to happen. When you admit that you are wrong, you are opening doors to more winning battle along the way. That moment that I snap, I instantly knew that I was wrong. When I confessed my wife was so happy to see me showing concern of changing.